Ephesians 5:22-27, 31-32
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless… “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.

We went for a dear friend’s Birthday party on Saturday night and it was a special one because we got to meet so many people and we were amazed to see how God works in the lives of people for purposes higher than just the here and now. I loved the fact that the entire evening was spent with real people with real lives and in the midst of that, the source of encouragement to each of us was the forgiveness of God and the lives marked by His grace. During the course of the evening, one of the topics 2 brothers and I discusses was to do with today’s passage and while this was contentious, it was a reality we had to deal with. What is the role of Jesus in our marriages and what roles do we play in His Church?

Paul reminds us today that the proper structure of a marriage is Christ as the foundation, husbands below in submission to Jesus and wives in submission to Jesus and their husbands. This is the structure God expects in our churches as much as in our marriages and while it sounds very lopsided in favor of men, the essence is the role Christ, men and women take in the marriage relationship. Jesus loved his bride, the church (Us), so much that he did everything in His power to make us perfect and without stain to be one with Him. In the same way husbands are expected to love their wives in such a manner and only then will they together be able to become one and serve God effectively. Similarly wives are required to submit to husbands in the way the church submits to Christ and in so doing glorify Jesus in their marriages.

When we consider our lives in Christ, we need to realize that submission is the only way forward with God. Without submitting our lives and it’s challenges to God, we will never enjoy the spiritual freedom in Him and so we should never consider submission to Christ or Husbands as bondage but freedom from the challenges of this world. In Christ, we will constantly battle the world because Satan would have us believe each for themselves but in Christ we are bound by love, God’s ever-forgiving, never-ending, always-cleansing, sanctifying love! Are we willing to submit and if yes, to whom, Jesus Christ or Satan?

In His Loving Service,

1 Corinthians 11:3 But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.

  1. Dr.Priya Rajan says:

    Viney this post brought tears in my eyes, we all are human beings and err at different times of life. One cannot expect the same love and affection from our partners, friends and family always. It is only that we have to forgive and keep loving the people who behave rude and who have not yet understood us.
    A man or woman may leave her/his husband or wife, parents may forget their duties towards their kids, and the children may not take care of their parents, there is only ONE TRUE LOVE, which will last forever and ever, a perennial river, which helps us to sustain in all miseries serving and loving others being in pain and sorrows, I BELIEVE IT IS THE LOVE OF THE LORD WHICH NO ONE ON THIS EARTH CAN MATCH, he cares for each and every soul a sinner and the saint alike without discrimination, and always graceful enough to forgive us even b4 we ask for it.
    One day you should be the cause for bringing an album of GOSPEL in George ‘s voice.

    • ServantBoy says:


      You hit the nail on the head when you said that no one can love anyone like God loves us and that is a fact. How then can we be expected to love God and each other as He loved us. It is impossible! The truth is that all things are possible through God and when God dwells in us through His Holy Spirit and we are in total submission to him, we become like Him day by day. When Paul calls for us to love God like He loved us, he is not asking us to try in our human strength but to love God with our transformed hearts and minds.

      I know that I am a work in progress in terms of loving and respecting my wife but I know that when I submit my marriage to God for His leading, I am able to love and respect my wife like never before and we as a couple are able to stand at the throne of grace as one in submission to our Lord and Master.

      Blessings, Vineet

  2. blesseddad says:

    This one as do all of your messages have touched me in a great way. The comparison of man/wife and Christ/church is a great way of explaining the way we need to submit to Him as savior. Submission is the true key to a close relationship to Christ, humility taking the place of pride, meekness taking the place of ego. servitude taking the place of piety. God Bless

    • ServantBoy says:

      Jim, Thank you for your insightful comment and I am always so encouraged by them. It has been weeks since I’ve had time to spend reading your awesome posts and I do pray that now with my return to Vancouver, I will be able to devote time again to getting encouraged by your posts. Submission is the hardest act for us as humans and I find it such a challenge in every relationship. Every time I realize and submit, my pride comes in the way and I’m erring again but praise God for his abundant grace and mercy that I am able to start again. Blessings to you and your beautiful family, Vineet

  3. I’m so blessed that you took on submission, even wives to their husbands as the church to Christ. As a wife, sometimes it’s tough to not only submit to Christ, but our hubbies too! ha! And I have an unbelieving husband, so it can be challenging, but God is good. And, in truth, I am to submit to everyone. I believe that He keeps and covers me if I humbly submit and keep a right heart attitude! Thank you sooo much Vineet, for speaking His heart and truth! deb

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